The Love of a Grieving Mom — How Can It Be?
When love keeps growing in the middle of heartbreak
Today I woke up weepy—not because of my loss, but because of the twenty-six grieving moms who are walking through The Grief Roadmap with me right now. Our time together is coming to an end, and my heart is full of emotion.
I can barely hold it.
Why do you think that is?
Here’s what I’ve come to know: grieving moms have hearts that are bigger than anyone I have ever met. Those outside our circle could never understand it. We love deeply, and our hearts ache for one another.
And there is something that happens every single time inside The Grief Roadmap. It’s supernatural. It unfolds in the presence of the Holy Spirit. I can’t explain it, but I see it every time.
As these moms grieve their precious children, something miraculous happens—their love for one another grows.
Friend, I stand amazed in His presence.
Love That Cannot Be Explained
This morning I was reading in the book of Philippians. Just for context—when Paul wrote Philippians, he was in prison.
As I read his words, full of encouragement and overflowing with love, I thought to myself: how could a man who had suffered so much for the cause of Christ be so full of love, so full of joy?
And immediately, my heart was drawn to the forty-two moms who have walked through The Grief Roadmap with me.
How can they continue to encourage one another and love one another when the sacred has been torn from their lives?
Because—just like Paul—they are living in the presence of the Holy Spirit. There is simply no other answer.
How can these moms reach out with a heart full of love when their own hearts are broken and suffering?
Friend, that is the body of Christ. And I have the privilege of watching that unfold.
There is nothing right about your child going to heaven before you do as a mom or dad. But I will always be grateful for the privilege to sit among these women who are doing the hard work of grief—even when they don’t realize they’re doing it.
Because sometimes, all they can do is show up for the weekly meetings.
When our hearts are so heavy that all we can do is show up—He honors that.
When We Suffer, His Love Still Abides
This is the passage I read this morning, and I thought of you:
**“Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God.
Whenever I pray, I make my requests for all of you with joy,
for you have been my partners in spreading the Good News about Christ
from the time you first heard it until now.
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you,
will continue his work until it is finally finished
on the day when Christ Jesus returns.
So it is right that I should feel as I do about all of you,
for you have a special place in my heart.
You share with me the special favor of God,
both in my imprisonment and in defending and confirming the truth of the Good News.
God knows how much I love you
and long for you with the tender compassion of Christ Jesus.
I pray that your love will overflow more and more,
and that you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding.
For I want you to understand what really matters,
so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return.
May you always be filled with the fruit of your salvation—
the righteous character produced in your life by Jesus Christ—
for this will bring much glory and praise to God.”**
— Philippians 1:3-11, NLT
We may not physically be in prison, but I know you understand what it feels like to be locked behind invisible walls. When our child dies, it’s as if someone shuts the door and throws away the keys.
But through the power of the living God and the presence of the Holy Spirit, we do have the keys to unlock that door.
That’s what I’ve witnessed in the moms who’ve walked through The Grief Roadmap with me.
I am forever grateful for you, and I love you with the love of the Lord.
The Beauty of Community
If you’re reading this and your heart is whispering, I want to be part of that, I want you to know something—community matters.
Community brings something to the table that you don’t find anywhere else.
It may look different for each of us. Maybe it’s GriefShare for you. Maybe it’s a small group of women who understand your pain and allow you to speak freely about your child and your grief.
And maybe, in your heart, you’re thinking, I’d like to be part of The Grief Roadmap.
If so, I encourage you to join the waitlist. I haven’t announced the next start date yet—it will be after the first of the year—but the waitlist is already open for new and returning moms.
If you’re on that list, you’ll be the first to know when the doors open.
Showing Up With Love
In the meantime, I’m offering a holiday sale on Grief Mentor Sessions to help you prepare your heart for this season.
Because it’s hard, friend—we understand how difficult these months can be. It’s already starting now.
When we meet one-on-one, I’ll help you create a plan for the days ahead. After your session, you’ll receive a set of post-session notes and a special handout called Peace for the Holidays — A Simple Plan for Grieving Moms.
Those notes are something I make for every client. I learned early in my grief that when I walked out of my counselor’s office, I could barely remember what we’d discussed. That’s why I began creating post-session notes—so you can sit, breathe, and absorb what the Holy Spirit shows you in our time together, then return to it later when you’re ready.
Because sometimes, showing up is all we can do—and God honors that.
Transformation begins when we start applying what He’s teaching us, one step at a time.
Love Covers a Multitude of Sins
Showing up, friend, means doing it in the spirit of love.
Grieving as a family is one of the hardest parts of this journey. Inside The Grief Roadmap, we spend time talking about the different ways family members grieve. Everyone’s relationship with your child was different, which means everyone’s grief will be different too.
That difference can create tension and misunderstanding—but love makes room for both.
“Above all, love each other deeply,
because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
— 1 Peter 4:8, NLT
There will be mistakes. There will be moments that require forgiveness.
But when you show up in the spirit of love—for your spouse, your surviving children, and even for yourself—God honors that.
When your child’s sibling is too young to fully understand what has happened, the way you show up and love them isshowing up.
When you and your spouse grieve differently, but you choose to see each other with compassion instead of frustration, you are showing up in love.
There’s nothing easy about walking this road, but if you can begin to see the people you’re grieving alongside not as the enemy, but as those who desperately need love too, everything changes.
Two truths the Holy Spirit reminded me of when He called me to show up for you:
- It’s not my responsibility how someone responds—that belongs to Him.
- This is not about me.
When I show up in the spirit of love, I’ve been obedient to what He’s asked of me—and the rest is up to Him.
Friend, that same truth applies to you. Show up in love for the ones who remain, and let God do the rest.
🎧 Listen to the Full Episode
Listen to Episode #226 — The Love of a Grieving Mom: How Can It Be? on The Grief Mentor Podcast.
Next Steps
Friend, if your heart feels especially heavy as the holidays approach, I want to help you find peace in the middle of it.
🎁 Holiday Flash Offer — Peace for the Holidays
Through November 22, book a 1:1 Grief Mentor Session and receive my new printable guide:
Peace for the Holidays — A Simple Plan for Grieving Moms.
In our time together, we’ll talk about what this season brings up for you and create a plan that helps you breathe again—one that honors your child and makes space for peace.
👉 Book your session here
💛 Join the Waitlist for The Grief Roadmap
If your heart is whispering that you need community, you’re not alone.
The next round of The Grief Roadmap opens after the first of the year, and the waitlist is now open for both new and returning moms.
When you join, you’ll be the first to know when enrollment begins—and you’ll receive early-access bonuses before the doors open.
👉 Join the waitlist here
You don’t have to face the next season alone. God is already walking with you, and I’d be honored to walk beside you too.
